Lingerie: The do’s and dont’s of buying lingerie for the woman in your life, and why not following the rules can be a disaster.
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With some help from Velvet Kitten friend Richard Romo of Flirty Lingerie, we've got the 411 on the do's and don'ts on lingerie purchasing for your special lady.
Mr. Romo breaks it down to a science. From sensitivity to online shopping; here are the basic tools to lingerie purchasing. In this first section, Romo talks about the why's of lingerie purchases, and identifying it's the lady in your life that is the recipient. Thanks Richard!
Lingerie: The do’s and dont’s of buying lingerie for the woman in your life, and why not following the rules can be a disaster.
By Richard Romo
This articles stands for the proposition that men want and need to buy lingerie for the women in their lives. That said there is a growing need for information to help men choose the right lingerie for the women in their lives, as often the purchase is a gift for a special occasion.
In the past these special occasions were a honeymoon, anniversary or vacation. Relationships today are perhaps no more complicated than in the past, but it is clear that lingerie is growing in popularity due to a number of factors.
Special occasions can be a soldier returning from a tour of duty, a weekend away coupled with a still camera or even a video camera to preserve the festivities or a lingerie party or role playing party complete with cameras.
As women continue to express themselves in the clothing they wear, lingerie is a major apparel line that women wear in intimate settings as well as increasingly as outer wear.
Next is the exploding popularity of online sites such as Voyeurweb, YouPorn and the explosion of blogs that range from the mundane to the extremely intimate. How does this factor in you ask? With the ability and desire to upload pictures and videos of women in their lingerie and less, lingerie is gaining a greater visibility every day.
With MySpace as the big dog on the porch, at least at this time, women, and the men who love to look at them express themselves in their favorite lingerie ensemble. The truth is that lingerie is here to stay, and men need to get better at buying it, not just looking at it.
You might agree that women in lingerie in magazines, on television, and even on the net are nothing particularly new. Men though, haven’t really kept up with the growth in availability of lingerie as well as the demand. Men know what they like, but that doesn’t always translate to the women in their lives. That model on the billboard probably had water and fig leaves for dinner, which accounts for the wafer thin waist, and gynormous breasts that were store bought. While I have nothing against enhanced breasts, in fact I adore them; I think men need to think, a lot, before they buy lingerie for the special woman in their lives.
Many men complain that their wives and girlfriends don’t wear the lingerie they buy them. This is due, at least in part to the possibility the lingerie was likely bought to fulfill a man’s fantasy without consideration that the woman who has to wear the outfit is a real flesh and blood girl who may have some concerns about such things as modesty, body image or she simply “wouldn’t be caught dead wearing that outfit”.
Buying beautiful, sensitive and intelligent woman lingerie is not the same as fantasizing about that chick in the magazine. Giving some thought to the purchase before the fact will improve the chance that the purchase is worn, appreciated and who knows what other benefits he may receive. That subject will be covered at some later date.
Whenever buying another person a gift one should consider a couple of factors. If you have ever purchased a young child a toy that was not on their list of favorites, the resulting reaction might be an indicator or what that special woman in your life feels when she gets a hot pink panty set that barely gets above her knees.
No, women are not like children, it is just that not taking her feelings into consideration, as well as her height, weight or favorite colors may be the beginnings of a gift that is not worn or appreciated.
Is it true that it is the thought that counts? Of course not! If there was no or very little thought put into the purchase of lingerie, then perhaps it is the thought that counts, and in fact counts for very little. The thought of giving a woman an intimate gift of lingerie that exposes her body and it is the wrong size, too revealing for the woman’s sense of modesty, or the wrong color is just plain insulting. Bad boy, shame on you!
This article is intended to navigate those dark waters. A roadmap through the world of intimate apparel, lingerie. A checklist for the uninformed and ill advised. Really just a couple of suggestions that should help men choose lingerie appropriate for the occasion, and most importantly the woman who will wear the lingerie.
Mr. Richard Romo of Flirty Lingerie will be back tomorrow with more tips and guidelines to help you in your intimate purchase!